This respirator fights fascists

This is an image of lady liberty in WWII anti-fash clothing pointing firectly at the viewer. n N95 mask has been added to the original image. The original stated, 'RESISTING FASCISM IS YOUR AMERICAN DUTY! Added along with the N95 are the words, "Do all you can to stay healthy enough to be good at your part in the resistance. THIS MASK HELPS SAVE DEMOCRACY,'

My respirator mask fights fascists and protects myself, my family, and my community.

Put yours back on indoors and in loud, crowded outdoor spaces as often and well as you can. Maybe not always. Maybe when you can. When you know there are vulnerable people around, or when you are in a crowd. Keep it on as well as you can, and remove it to speak to folk who are hard of hearing or deaf, or for an occasional sip of a tasty beverage. Clean the air, Davos style.

Until we have Davos-quality clean air, a well-fitted N95, KN95, KF94, or FFP2 respirator mask will block at least 95% of the viral particles that float in the air. The more we collectively mask, the stronger we will be.

My mask fights fascists. Maybe yours can, too.
But that’s not the essay.

How did they get us to remove them in the first place? Read on. That’s the essay. There’s no catchy story here, just facts and quotes speaking for themselves. Facts are tricky, b/c our brains are tempted to *Meh, whatever* them away, but here goes. Come along with me.

You already know that HHS, NIH, CDC, FDA, NIOSH, and more are being dismantled. That includes

  • Health and Human Services
  • The Centers for Disease Control
  • The Food and Drug Administration
  • The National Institutes for Health
  • The National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health

As I write this, the Supreme Court has voted to allow Trump to terminate 16,000 probationary federal workers. Many of these were probationary because of a promotion due to excellence. These destructive moves will make people in USAmerica less healthy, less safe, and less able to fight the oligarchical, white nationalist, and patriarchal takeover of the government of the US. This week Musk/DOGE closed a staggering 50 vaccination clinics in Texas — amidst a raging measles outbreak. You know this is bad.

But this isn’t where it started. Without going into all the history and political maneuvers of the hard/far/religious/nationalist right and their love affair with people who value money over any and all human life, let’s just stick with this:

It’s the same people. It was never about health or ignorance. It’s about politics and capital.

Musk:

  • March 2020. “The Covid panic is dumb,” and “kids are essentially immune.”
    This is back when he sent CPAP machines instead of Ventilators. Remember that time?
  • April 2020 “Give the people back their goddamn freedom” [because shutting down his factories presented a risk to his business.]
  • Sept 2020: Musk says he won’t take 💉 because he and his kids are “not at risk,” and Covid “has a low mortality rate.”
  • March 2021: Musk doubles down on the danger of the vaccination, “There have been quite a few negative reactions.”

Trump:

  • Jan 2020: “We have it under control.”
  • Feb 24, 2020 “The Coronavirus is very much under control in the USA. We are in contact with everyone and all relevant countries. CDC & World Health have been working hard and very smart. Stock Market starting to look very good to me!”
  • Feb 26, 2020 “The risk to the American people remains very low. We have the greatest experts, really in the world, right here.”
  • Feb 27 2020 “It’s going to disappear. One day — it’s like a miracle — it will disappear.”
  • Mar 2020: “It will go away.”
  • April 3, 2020 “The C.D.C. is advising the use of nonmedical cloth face covering as an additional voluntary public health measure. So it’s voluntary. You don’t have to do it. They suggested for a period of time, but this is voluntary. I don’t think I’m going to be doing it.”
  • April 2020: “It’s gonna be gone.”
  • May 11, 2020, the day the USAmerican death count hit 80,000, he spoke in the Rose Garden,
    “We have met the moment, and we have prevailed. Americans do whatever it takes to find solutions, pioneer breakthroughs, and harness the energies we need to achieve a total victory.”

The Strategic National Stockpile had been depleted of N95 respirators from 2017 to 2019, when the first Trump administration failed to replace supplies used in earlier disasters.
In May 2020, in a House subcommittee meeting, Dr. Rick Bright, previous director of Department of Health and Human Services’ Biomedical Advanced Research and Development Authority, explained that the Trump administration had ignored his early warnings to stock up on masks and other supplies that could have been used to combat Covid.

In the absence of enough N95 masks, surgical masks, which are designed to stop splatter, not air, would commonly be used instead. People started calling everything “masks.” When surgical/paper/baggy blue masks didn’t help much, “masks don’t work” became a calling card for freedom.

May/June 2020 The World Health Organization declares an “infodemic” of incorrect information about the virus that poses risks to global health. Russia, China, and Iran are all huge purveyors of disinformation all over social media. A Cornell study finds that Donald Trump is the single largest driver of infodemic.

Meanwhile, Trump:

  • June 2020: “It’s fading away.”
  • July 2020: “I don’t agree with the statement that if everybody wears a mask, everything disappears.”
  • Also July 2020: “I’ll be right eventually. It’s going to disappear, and I’ll be right….I’ve probably been right more than anybody else.”
  • Sept 2020: “I’m sometimes surprised when I see somebody sitting and — like, with Joe [Biden.] Joe feels very safe in a mask. I don’t know, maybe he doesn’t want to expose his face. There’s no reason for him to have masks on.”

There is a reality that this truly did get complicated. For real. Cloth and paper masks didn’t protect people as much as hoped. When it was believed that most infections came from inhaling large cough globules and sneeze boogers, it was hoped the flimsy masks would be enough to stop them. And for sure, they stopped a sneeze booger from getting in our mouths, but they did nothing to stop the aerosol backwash of the moist exhalations of people building up indoors. But since there was a shortage of N95 masks (which had to be saved for folks working in hospitals), these type of masks would be all that most folk had at that time.

Meanwhile, staying home/limiting public outings and work was emotionally and economically hard on working and poor folk, and emotionally hard and economically uncomfortable for middle-class folk. The richest folk, though, were practically dying from their investment income not being huge.

Oct. 4, 2020, The Koch Foundation funded Great Barrington Declaration, aka Let It Rip. Co-author Jay Bhattacharya wrote, “We know* that all populations will eventually reach herd immunity” and “allow those who are at minimal risk of death to live their lives normally to build up immunity to the virus through natural infection,” and “nursing homes should use staff with acquired immunity.” These statements, of course, turned out to be factually false, but they sounded good at the time and were repeated by every anti-mask/anti-vax influencer.

(*Yes, they had the balls temerity to say they knew what would happen. Reasonable scientists at the time were clear about how much they knew, what they hypothesized, and what they didn’t know, and were racing against the clock to add to the depth of data.)

Ahem. Anyway, moving on.

  • October 2020, one week after the Great Barrington Declaration, Trump publicly questioned the usefulness of masks. Again. Still.
  • A week after that, “I don’t wear masks like [Biden.] Every time you see him, he’s got a mask. He could be speaking 200 feet away from it, and he shows up with the biggest mask I’ve seen.”
  • August 2023: In a video message, Trump returned to his roots and trashed the idea that masks protect people from airborne contaminants and viruses. “The left-wing lunatics are trying very hard to bring back Covid lockdowns and mandates with all of their sudden fearmongering about the new variants that are coming… Gee whiz, you know what else is coming? An election. They want to restart the Covid hysteria so they can justify more lockdowns, more censorship, more illegal drop boxes, more mail-in ballots and trillions of dollars in payoffs to their political allies heading into the 2024 election—does that sound familiar?”

Also in 2023, the World Economic Forum met in Davos, Switzerland. The invitation-only annual event brings thousands of investors, business and political leaders, economists, and celebrities together to talk shop and schmooze. They were required to test before entry (and if positive, entry was denied no matter who it was.) PCR tests were available to them at any time up to and including when they left to return home. There were HEPA filters in every small room and UVGI (ultraviolet germicidal irradiation, light that kills viruses) in large rooms, and the entire air supply was completely replaced with clean outdoor air multiple times a day. All staff and drivers were masked. The latest vaccinations were strongly encouraged, and participants were offered FFP2 (N95 quality) masks. While the super rich were telling us to unmask, get back to work, and “don’t worry about it,” they layered protections like a wedding cake.
More here and here and here, It’s worth taking a look, because we can do this, too!

Mar 25, 2025, Dr. Jay Bhattacharya is rewarded for his alliances and allegiances with confirmation as the new Director of the National Institutes of Health.

It was never about health; it’s about politics and capital.
It’s the same people who are currently dismantling the government supports who got us to let down our guard, not learn what we could during the most intense five years of medical and scientific research ever (450,000 articles) because a firehose of anger and denial overwhelmed the more complicated science. So many of us instead leaned into comfort and denial.

The removal of respirator masks and other clean air mitigations only serves Empire.

We were hosed. tricked, manipulated. They moved us with a social media and public statement firehose of public denial, misinformation, and disinformation, and leaned into making us hyperaware of our personal discomfort. They moved us to remove protections that would have helped us stay collectively strong. Removing masking made us weaker and more vulnerable. Hundreds of thousands get Long Covid every year, some already disabled, others newly disabled, all less able to resist.

Another significant impact is that so many of us have become less empathetic to those around us who *need* us to mask so they can be safe enough to be in public, and less caring about the reality that we still have the collective power to flatten the curve each time there’s a surge. We were sold immediate comfort with a false promise of safety, and then what? Maybe fell into the habit of immediate comfort.

Same as now. They did this.

Two birds, one stone. Bird one leads us to increase our own infection rates, with the subsequent damage to our immune systems and organs, and weakens us all. Bird two is another ding in our capacity to hold empathy for others.

My respirator mask fights fascists and protects myself, my family, and my community.

Put yours back on indoors and in loud, crowded outdoor spaces as often and well as you can. Maybe not always. Maybe when you can. When you know there are vulnerable people around, or when you are in a crowd. Keep it on as well as you can, and remove it to speak to folk who are hard of hearing or deaf, or for an occasional sip of a tasty beverage. Clean the air, Davos style.
Until we have Davos quality clean air, a well-fitted N95, KN95, KF94, or FFP2 respirator mask will block at least 95% of the viral particles that float in the air. The more we collectively mask, the stronger we will be.

My mask fights fascists.
Maybe yours can, too.

This is a photo of CB waving to the camera. They are wearing a Halyard N95 duckbull mask with a sipmask valve in it. They are wearing prescription Stoggles and a baseball cap. They are seated in an airport,m ready to safely board a plane that is flying from an area with Measles toward somewhere else.


With gratitude for the original artist, who I hope isn’t AI because don’t get me going.

Gratitude to some of the pieces where I got the quotations.

What Trump Has Said About Wearing Masks and Covid-19 – The New York Times
Unmasked: How Trump’s mixed messaging on face-coverings hurt U.S. coronavirus response
Trump repeats inaccurate claim about masks, citing CDC study.
Trump, downplaying virus, has mocked wearing masks for months – ABC News
Despite new mandatory mask rules, Trump insists it’s everyone’s ‘personal choice’ – ABC News
Elon Musk: a Timeline of His Comments During the Coronavirus Outbreak – Business Insider

World Economic Forum: Here Are All The Covid-19 Precautions At Davos 2023
The #DavosStandard safe air should be for all of us – Boing Boing



Sometimes people don’t notice they aren’t who they thought.

If you’ve “always been a liberal” but you exclusively quote conservative and right-wing thinkers you probably aren’t a liberal anymore.

So maybe give that a ponder.

June 5, 2023

This reads: Psst: Hey you, over here. If you've ":always been a liberal" but you exclusively quote conservative and right-wing thinkinrs, you aren't a liberal anymore. So maybe give that a ponder.

Inclusion or colonization?

“If we say “inclusion” but we mean
“We have something that’s perfect exactly the way it is,
so you should come join us and fit right in,“
that’s not inclusion, that’s colonization.

Dear my people,
especially (but not only) my white people, my cisgender people, my heterosexual people, my neurotypical and ablebodied people,

Yesterday we honored Indigenous People’s Day in USAmerica. I hope you noticed and learned some new things that we were not taught as children, that we were not taught about the truth of our own history of USAmerica and Canada. I invite you now to anchor yourself in the feeling of noticing a new perspective and truth and to reflect in an adjacent way.

Image description: Sunset colors in clouds above shadowed mountains.
The words read:
A note for my colleagues in majority population centered institutions, 2019.
“If we say "inclusion" but we mean
“We have something that’s perfect exactly the way it is, 
so you should come join us 
and fit right in,“
that’s not inclusion, that’s colonization.
Even if we put a pretty picture on it.
Preemptive Radical Inclusion is a perspective and practice: a gateway, not a goal.  When we practice Preemptive Radical Inclusion, we do so as a gateway toward equity, justice, and liberation.
If we work meaningfully toward justice, we will change, and who we are as a gathered community will change. We all get free together."
~ CB Beal,  Justice and Peace Consulting
For this post, I sized images for a handheld device. Right click to open in new tab if your desktop displays this too small to read. ~CB

When those of us who have privilege and positions of responsibility and control within our institutions, congregations, and organizations mean to be inclusive, we must carefully examine what we mean by that word.

Too often we mean that we are excited to share This Thing We Have™ that is absolutely fabulous, lifesaving, and meaningful exactly the way we have crafted it, and mean that people should come fit right into it with us. It is generosity that leads us to want to share it because other people should have it too! So we put out a call that if people would just come join us, they too will have their life saved in some way.

But, when we are part of the majority culture and are leaders (formally or informally,) we or people like us were likely in charge of the original creation. Because of this our default is to have already created This Thing We Have™ just the way that is most perfect and comfortable for ourselves.

But.

Inviting others to fit into This Thing We Have™ is not inclusion. People who join an organization or group should not be expected to leave their whole selves at the door and Become Just Like Us.

They should not be expected to enjoy everything about the way we do things in order for us all to be together. People need different things to be present, to feel welcome, at home. People need different kinds of structures and ways to make meaning together and ways to serve.

The ones who need This Thing We Have™ just the way it is now are likely already here.

If, at the core of This Thing We Have™ there is something truly lifesaving, we must sift and sort what is necessary for This Thing We Have™ from what is just habit that privileges us within it.

As we go about this sifting and sorting, we may learn that some of the ways we do things or speak may be hurtful to these others to whom we generously wanted to reach out.

For those of us who have worked so long and hard to create and sustain the incredibly meaningful This Thing We Have™, finding out that some things we do hurt others, causes harm…well, that *feels* some kind of way.

Sometimes our thinking and feeling response goes like this:

  • We know we are not the kind of people who intentionally hurt others, so that can’t be right.
  • We react quickly and reject the implication that we are people who cause harm.
  • And if we didn’t mean to hurt or exclude them, it must, our thinking goes, be their fault.
  • After all, This Thing We Have™ is amazing and lifesaving.

It takes only an instant for us to become sure that those people just aren’t right for our group, they are mistaken, they misheard what we said, or misinterpreted what we did. Because if we are not the kind of people who would cause harm to others, it must be them. But it is we who are making that decision.
Can you tell the problem here?

Image description: This is an image of a person sitting on a rock at the top of a mountain. The sun is setting among mountains behind them.
The words read: Don’t believe everything you think:
Learn to replace unintentional harm with intentional thoughtfulness

Or some of us react with shame and freeze, or try to push the feeling and the situation away. Or we feel awkward, confused, bereft, agitated, or generically “upset.”

It is uncomfortable to realize that something we did hurt people. Many of us were never taught how to be still with the discomfort of finding out that we actually hurt someone else just by doing what we always did and saying what we were taught to say. So maybe to avoid that awful feeling we believe our intention more than we are able to take in and believe someone’s articulation of the lived impact of our words and deeds.

People come with their own values, experiences, practices and perspectives. Our responsibility—if we truly believe that what we offer is lifesaving—is to learn, grow, and change to make space and flexibility. That means we must start that learning and changing now. Even as we put out an invitation, we start to learn what is necessary and begin to change what we can in order to prepare a way.

If we who hold authority and responsibility in our organizations and congregations expect people to give up core parts of who they are (their values, cultural practices, patterns of communication, even the validity of their human experience) in order to fit themselves into This Thing We Have™ and demand people do it our way, well, historically we have a word for that. Colonization.

***

This reflection can be challenging, I know, especially for a lot of us who have lived our lives with the social structures that support our lives being more right than wrong, more helpful than hurtful, more majority culture enforcing than marginalized.

If you follow me, you know that I’m all about the invitation to curiosity, noticing, breathing into a moment, and moving forward one move at a time. Notice not just your thought-full reaction, but your emotional one as well. If your reaction to this post was immediate denial and rejection or the also unhelpful feeling of shame, and it’s a natural reaction, notice it. A feeling is just a feeling, but also, it is information. So don’t stop there.

Don’t abandon reflection simply because you had a reaction.

***

I invite you to take a breath and remind yourself that it is a commitment of the practice of Preemptive Radical Inclusion that we reject the shame which freezes us and instead lead with curiosity.

So roll the post back and just wonder about it.
Ask yourself a few different questions:

  • “What are the specific points that I’m uncomfortable with?”
  • “If it is true, what would that mean?“ and
  • “If it is true, and I am just now realizing it, what can I do next?
  • What are the ways my actions and speech in my congregation or organization cling tightly to
    The Way We’ve Always Done It and how can I loosen my grip?”

And for all of us, this:

“What would it mean if the way that we cling to control of the patterns and processes of our institution was on the continuum, not of democracy, but of colonization?”

~ CB Beal, Justice and Peace Consulting

(this is lightly edited rerun of a FB post from this day in 2019)

Dear my people, on the meaning of White Supremacy Culture

This is an update of a piece from my occasional series that I write for my Facebook friends, “Dear my people/Hello good people/Dear my white people.” It is a longish read. Settle in, reflect, ponder, respond.


Dear my people, especially my Gen X and Boomer white women people,

I find this a useful entry point to assessing how open we are to being “called in” to do the hard work of liberation on behalf of others:

If one’s first response to accountability is a sense of loss of autonomy, that’s the voice of privilege.

It’s essential to learn to identify for ourselves when that is what is happening, because while it’s evident to more marginalized people, it’s our work to do. Join me below in exploring this.

I start with the premise that you, good reader, like me, are liberal/progressive or radical in outlook, in congregations, social groups, and political organizing movements, and that you are in favor of equity and justice and opposed to racism, homophobia, transphobia and other hate and control based social and political problems.

I want to make an invitational point relative to a defensive practice I’ve seen among us a lot, especially on the internet.

If one’s reaction to being invited to correct an action that is based in an oppressive structure is to deflect or defer to the past, that’s defensiveness. If, instead of clearly naming and immediately countering white supremacy culture, homophobia, and transantagonism our reaction includes the lines
“In my day…”
and/or
“We simply warned and protected each other from the worst of them,” [predatory bosses or men with power]
and/or
“We sucked it up [when men/straight people behaved badly to us,]”
and/or
“It took decades to get liberals to stop calling God ‘He,’ be more patient and stop pushing us“
and/or
“We still don’t have the ERA,”
the only thing that really tells the rest of us is that there is a pecking order to liberation.

Much like the grad school professor who expected students to study 18 hours a day and suffer mightily to pass her class/their thesis or dissertation because she had lived for days on end on cans of sardines smuggled into the far corner of the library to make it through the nightmare of being one of the earliest women in the field, this suggests that liberation only comes after doubled down suffering. That wandering for 40 days and nights in wilderness is a requirement for freedom.

Reactions like this suggest that we’re not quite there, that our sense of justice is more based on our own suffering than ameliorating the suffering of others, and indicates that we are not as far in justice making as we think we are or want to be. Our ideas of equity and justice have not yet included enough clear examination of our own power, privilege, and responsibility. These above caveats offered in response to calls for justice (whether we deliver them in writing or in our mind) suggest that we’re not doing the work, ready to do the work, or maybe even prepared to recognize how much work is yet to be done.

Almost all of us bear identities and experiences that are a complex mixture of privilege, marginalization, and oppression. None of us get a pass from working on our privilege and dismantling systems of oppression that benefit us simply because we have spent so long bowed down beneath the oppression and marginalization we ourselves bear and which we have
already been opposing. And none of us, including myself, are free from the kneejerk reactions.

I’m addressing all of you who have or want to have the commitment to wholehearted justice for all.



It’s hard work. It is painful. It often involves unfamiliar pain of new learning or even pain that touches on some old shame that ought not to have been ours in the first place and becomes all muddled together. There may be a particular challenge for people in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s who fought literal, philosophical, and activist wars for justice only to find out now how short we have fallen.

We share neural pathways of belief in the fundamental fairness of most everything that are decades deep. From elementary school through the end of our schooling, from churches and politics and the media, we have been trained to perceive and believe that except where we notice we are oppressed, everything else is relatively fair. But where our privilege used to be something we did not have to notice, it’s now becoming unmistakable.
And often jarring.

It used to be that we might or might not choose to pick up the liberation ‘zines and pamphlets on the street or coffee shop, or history and social policy books, or newspapers. We could easily go years with only what Time and Newsweek and Walter Cronkite, Peter Jennings, Barbara Walters and Jane Pauley offered us. Or maybe something was delivered to us in one sermon a week, or a documentary we chose to watch, neither of which usually had built-in structures for reflection and processing. We could go years without being meaningfully faced with our participation in systems of oppression. Now, because of newer media where people are now making these calls to do the work to dismantle systems, it’s impossible to miss. It shows up in our online magazines. It shows up in our social media. Every day.

When I notice responses to these invitations to do the work of dismantling oppressive systems in ourselves and our society that say things like, “Be patient,” or “Don’t you understand how far we’ve come?” or, “I got called Miss and girly and patted on the ass by my supervisor for two decades, you can deal with being misgendered or a racial microaggression or whatever, now and then,” I can’t help but wonder if we are leading with our discomfort rather than our curiosity and commitment.

I don’t know that people are identifying privilege any more than they used to. Really, how could I measure that? I do think a big difference is that invitations for repentance and repair did not used to get delivered to us on a daily if not hourly basis in our social media feeds on devices we hold in one hand while stirring the spaghetti sauce with the other.

So what used to be pretty easy for us to remain ignorant of relative to our privilege, how our USAmerican/Western cultural roots created a structure within which we were pre-designed to be biased and bigoted, pre-designed to perceive the world in a way that would be to our benefit, we can’t miss it anymore.

So it feels as though people are bombarding us personally with calls to action.
And we have feelings about that.

But here’s my invitation. We already know how to do this work, my Xers and Baby Boomers, we simply have to decide to bear the weight.

  • If one is a woman who ever expected a man to learn to use inclusive language for people and God, to learn not to say stewardess anymore; that person can now learn and practice new pronouns and meaningfully apologize and correct when they are mistaken.
  • If one is a white person who ever explained to another white person that they should stop using black as a euphemism for evil; they can now acknowledge that idea as but the tip of our inherited cultural iceberg that is white supremacy and unpack it further.
  • If one ever expected a wealthy person to not try to split the restaurant check four equal ways because their social rule of not talking about money was more important than equitable distribution; they can now start to recognize that reparations for slavery and native genocide must be part of a justice movement forward.

It is part of the role of cultural conditioning to make us believe this conditioning isn’t real, or isn’t as powerful as it is. Extra points if the culture that has formed us and defined our values, beliefs, ethics, and framed our perceptions makes us prize individuality, a powerful defense against the idea that a white supremacy culture could impact us so much. This internal resistance is built into the code.

Our white supremacist, colonialist, patriarchal cultural heritage means we have been designed to believe our ancestors were heroic defenders of democracy for all, to bristle at the idea that many of our ancestors were pretty monstrous, and outright reject the idea that this cultural and economic heritage means we ourselves are saturated by and participatory in it today.

But our ethical and religious commitments call us to notice that internal resistance, to turn away from it, and face reality.

My favorite short-lived TV series is Firefly. Its culminating movie, Serenity, has a special place in my heart. There’s a point in the movie when the captain of the renegade band that has been trying to stay under the radar of the oppressive government announces, after facing the reality that the government is more evil than they knew, that there will be “No more running. I aim to misbehave.”

Although I have an engaged in justice work my entire adult life, there was a turning point when I turned 50 when I doubled down. I put those words on my arms – literally. No more turning away from my responsibility. No more avoiding the impact of what has been done to or for me, acknowledging that both are unacceptable. No more shirking from the responsibility that our government represents me and makes decisions that benefit me and others of my race. Regardless of who I actually voted for. I don’t get a pass.

No more evading the truth that most of the ancestor people who I was taught in school were brave heroes may well have been brave, but they were not heroic. No more running from the wrong words that come out of my mouth, or their impact; from not only the ways I experience marginalization and oppression in our society but the ways I bear privilege. Every single time these things appear in front of me.

There are two things true at one time.
Point one: Those of us who are older have neural pathways in our brains that are set and rooted and automatic. That’s actually a thing.
Point two: We can simultaneously acknowledge point one as a true state and accept our responsibility to create new pathways, to perceive what others are desperately trying to get us to perceive. We can accept responsibility to learn and do less of that which perpetuates the status quo and more of that which creates justice. We can not only acknowledge the ways we bear privilege, but to start dismantling the structures that create it.

It’s hard work. It’s much slower than people want it to be. It’s not solved with a single two-hour workshop. It’s an ongoing intervention, part of facing a spiritual crisis of recognizing that a fully embodied liberation must be embodied for all of us, and it can’t be when so many people’s bodies are not safe and whole. It can’t be avoided by making our ethical path into something insular, looking out for our own. It can’t be avoided by retreating into a desire for individual spirituality as a reaction to our feelings when we are faced with the hard reality that part of bending the moral arc of the universe toward justice includes acknowledging we are not as awesome as we thought we were. As we wish we were.

But we can do it. Our cultural heritage and programming make it painful, and our religious or ethical commitments make it necessary. This is not unlike our experience of working on many other social, cultural, and family issues.

We all have choices about how to turn our attention. We can turn our attention in a way that amplifies our own pain, or in a way that lessens others.

We can focus on how personally painful it is to face the realities of our lives within this system, and suffer trying to deny, avoid, or dull that pain, or we can recognize that pain for what it is — the dying of white supremacy culture as we dismantle it within ourselves and the world around us. Like chemo for cancer, the cure is painful, but that’s no reason not to do the work.

We start where we are. We can simply start each day by saying, “No more running. I aim to misbehave,“ or “No more resistance. I aim to misbehave,” and then see how much misbehavior we can fit into a day.

My Gen X and Boomer white women and adjacent others can acknowledge and celebrate the noticing and correction of mistakes instead of expecting oppressed people to suffer as much as you did in the early days of feminism or the nascent gay rights movement.

We can follow people on social media and buy books by those who write critically about race and gender and sexuality. We can follow people who are leaders in movements for justice and learn from their words without arguing back at them. When we notice that we resist or reject an idea they put forward, we can ask ourselves, “If this were true, what would it mean for me and my life?“ and follow that thought process wherever it takes us. Instead of expecting people to suck it up as we did, or to stop pushing so hard, we can choose to make that path better. To make their days and nights wandering in the desert fewer.

Because we don’t actually believe that the people who should bear all the burden of dismantling oppression are those who are oppressed, do we? When we don’t do the work, we guarantee that that work remains on the shoulders of people who are marginalized and oppressed.

We can choose to right size the load we carry. We can choose to be brave and be heroes.

Come, misbehave with me.

Love, me


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